Worried For my friends saftey. please help?
This story has alot to it, but please help.
My best friend, who im so close to, there is nothing i cannot say to her. She is pregnant and he boyfriend is asking her to have an abortion, and she doesnt want to.
The Guy has anger problems, but he’s so sly even she now can see through him. Once instance is like xmas he asked her what she wanted, she said a Nintendo DS, but on xmas day she got some necklaces and random gifts, however she was happy. Then he bought himself a DS and was teasing her, when she took it to work one day he smashed it up. He isnt normal.
She has been with him for a year, is in alot of debt, scared to be alone even though she has alot of friends and family around her. She had a miscarrige with his child a year ago, she was so upset so we’re not sure what his problem is this time. He’s trying to get her to sell her house and rent with him…..he is controlling and violent, he has weird moods. Ive seen it first hand and through what she’s told me, also other friends have asked me what the deal with him was.
My friend knows he has to go, but i dont know what to do…i live a 45 min drive away….but i dont drive and i have work and renting a little flat with my boyfriend here….. I would move back in a heartbeat to be with her but its not that simple…..please, what do i do??? xxxxx
She has to leave him, he is violent and controlling and she has a child to worry about now. If no one can move in with her I think that she should cut all connection with him and go to stay with you or other friends for a week or two. If she breaks up with him face to face he may get violent so I would advise her to phone him once she has left to stay with friends, then she can move back once he’s got the message. Also make sure she is at work or with other people as much as possible after breaking up with him, that minimises chances of him trying to get back with her or becoming violent.
Even though I haven’t faced this experience before, I’ll be glad to help you.
As her friend you really need to be there with her when she needs you the most, spend some time with her. Take a day or two out and invite her to go shopping, and than go to a restaurant and talk to her and discuss her problems. Know how she feels and give her what you think she should do to help her. Tell her to think about her self for once and her baby.
Remember in this society if you have money it means you have power.
I hope this helps