should i trust her again?
together for 23 years she accused me of 3 affairs (which i did not have) she was on match . com and dated 6 men until i found out we split i been around the world come back because we have 2 dogs she is in financial trouble and emotional i have postponed my going back to nz and been helping her fix up the house to sell or rent now for the crunch she keeps telling me she loves me and wants us to get back together i don’t know if i can trust her
Oh lord. If you stay with her you’re being weak – not strong. You’re way too good for what she has done to you and she owes you; not the opposite. Man up!
’she is in financial trouble and emotional i have postponed my going back to nz and been helping her fix up the house’
’she keeps telling me she loves me and wants us to get back together i don’t know if i can trust her’
Why do you think she wants you back?
Sounds to me like she’s using you
move on, she has problems that only she can fix. find someone better. you will never be able to trust her again
Your answer is in your question. She can’t be trusted and she’s just using you because she needs help.
It seems like she’s using you because she knows that you’re a fairly stable guy. She sounds like an insecure woman and she only accused you of having affairs because she was doing so and felt guilty about it sub-consciously. If I were you, I’d give her a BIT of a hand, then return to my own life. She sounds like she’s only bringing you down, love, and nothing more than a burden from the past.
Best of luck!
Xoxo
i would not trust her again
take her back! its stupid splitting up because of something on the internet. I’m sure she is a really nice girl – and if you really like her you should not throw it away. Okay she did somethinmg silly, but that happens in every relationship. My girlfriend dated some guys from the internet as well – but I know that she loves me, and we have now built up a fantastic relationship. I am so glad we didnt split up.
So dont be weak – be strong if you really like her – and stay togther! she hasnt really done anything bad if you are honest has she?