please can i get some advice?
hi everyone.
i feel stupid writing this but i need to get some closure otherwise ill go insane.
about 6 years ago i finished with my boyfriend at the time and left the house we had brought together in 2001.
at the time everything was rosy and stuff so i had no worries.
in 2003 i met my current partner .
about 2 years ago i found out that my ex had sold the house behind my back. at the time i waived my rights to the house because of the messy split but stupidly believed what he said when we first brought the house that it would be 50/50 if it didnt work out.
recently i found out that he had got married-dont know why but this has been playing on my mind also-think im going crazy.
to add to that my current boyfriend just seems happy to talk to me when im paying for rent , bills etc but wants little else to do with me apart from that. am i just a complete loser and faliure-i sure as hell feel like one
hiya, you are not a loser,its just that you have pick a right selfish sod that is using you.if you were to stop paying the rent and bills,you know he will be gone out of your life.he is using you.the sooner get him out of your life the better.you need to find someone who loves,and respects you,and does not have to give any think in return,only your love of course.that man is out there,and its just a case of finding him,and you will.just take your time,and find out what the guy is like.i think you rush into the guy you are with,because of your 1st breakup,and yet again he turn out to do the dirty on you.you have got to really be careful who you choose,to share your life with.you have started of bad, but you will find that guy, who will love and respect you.good luck,and put it all down to experiences.xx
you should not feel like a complete loser. if he’s making you feel like that, maybe you need to find someone that makes you feel like a winner. the basis of your relationship should not be money. I know, I’ve been there! Take what you have and go from there. If it’s not good enough for them, you’re better off without them!
No you are not a complete loser or failure it was a bad luck or may be your little mistakes but stop thinking negatively and reassess your behavior also try explain same to your new partner that he should help you in paying rent and bills etc. Or convince him to marry you but in any case leave every thing upon luck and work hard for your future and hopefully you will get your reward.
Next time get a written agreement, can’t hardly ever trust what people say when it comes to money.
Your current boyfriend? He’s probably just using you to pay the bills. You work, pay the bills, do the housework, do the cooking. Am I anywhere close? I know somebody who treats his girl that way. Can’t get the gang ideas out of his head. Ya don’t have ta put up with it. There are many better choices out there.
well its obvious to you that your current bf is using you just for bills.. he probably is having an affair with someone else.. he is a jerk.. kick him in his dick and ask him to stay out of your life.. you deserve someone way better.. am sure when the right time comes, you will find the right person who is destined to be your soulmate… as for your ex.. you’re not going to leave it at that are you.. only you know him and i want you to kick his rear end… take your revenge.. somehow.. but you cant let him get away with it … best wishes from my side ..
No, you just seem to pick men that are selfish jerks. You don’t need to be half of a couple. Try being self supporting on your own, and don’t be in such a hurry to get into a living together situation again. Allow yourself time to get over the bad relationships, and regain your confidence, then maybe move into a relationship slowly with someone who has a job and will be a Partner, not a free loader.