Heres the situation:
My male friend buys house with his girlfriend over a year ago – mortgage in both names, but he had a form made up that makes sure he gets the money back he put down if the house is sold. They broke up 3 months ago and shes moved back to scotland to live with her folks (shes on the doll – not earning a penny, and not paying her part of the mortgage) – he is trying to get her name off the mortgage (she wants 3000 pounds from him to do this!) which they are sorting out between them.
iv moved in to the spare room to pay half the mortgage as rent – no extra bills to pay on top – for 350 pounds. not alot, but enough to put a hole in my pocket lol! we set up rules that i couldnt have my boyfriend over more than 3/4 times a week (not a prob) and no strangers in the house, and no parties with asking (incase he had work the next morning) which was fine. we both agreed we are house proud, and like things tidy and in their place, and dont eat alot of fast food.
i went on holiday for a week before movin in 4 weeks ago, and i swapped numbers with him and a female friend of mine – they hit it off, and she hasnt spent one night at her mums house (thats where she is paying rent – 400 pounds – which she is moaning about as she hasnt been home, only to collect more clothes) since i went away (that makes it 5 weeks at his house) and she hasnt spent a penny on bills or rent, as she is using water, food, electricity, and gas, not forgetting she is using my stuff (shampoo/conditioner and bodywash, food, and pinching my dvds without asking)!!! when i asked her about it over email, she printed them off and showed him what i had been saying (most of it was joking about, like "keep the noise down" and "can you keep the fumbling to the bedroom?" stuff) as they are very open about their relationship and seem to snog and grope when they can, even if someone is in the same room – eww! he had a list of things he was going to comment on with me, but he never did, and i found the list down the side of the sofe – in her hand writing!
my male friend has insisted she hasnt moved in (he said when she does he will let me know), but she blatently has – she has a pile of shoes at the bottom of the stairs (all mine are in my room) and she does her washing there, and uses everything in the house, and leaves her stuff in piles everywhere (laptop, motorbike helmet – she doesnt even have her motorbike anymore – golf umbrella, handbags, makeup, and clothes) which is just so messy! to top it off, they eat out or have takeaways all the time (unless she is cooking for them – not asking me if i want to join them, or even consider i am there – once or twice a week if lucky) and they leave their pots and pans dirty, dont wash up, or even fill the dishwasher – and its not even my house! she even has his door key as she finishes work before him, so lets herself in as and when!
everything we agreed on went out the window – my bf can stay whenever he likes now, and he isnt as tidy as he made out, and he eats rubbish all the time! i just cant understand why its suddenly changed now he has her!
can anyone help? im really considering on moving out – its so bad!
how can i approach him without her and lay it out? im so stuck! help!