I am moving to Kentucky as of tomorrow with my fiancee. I dunno if i want to go anymore :S?
Basically he is from and lives in Kentucky however works around Europe. I work in New York but i am from London. When we got engaged we both thought that it would be nice to start married life with our own home instead of my New York flat, many hotels around Europe, the room he grew up in at his parents home in Kentucky and the room i grew up in at my parents home in London. After alot of discussions he conviced me that Kentucky would be a nice place to have a "family" home and it also be close to his family. We found the perfect house (well once i have finished redecorating it!) and we are travelling out there tomorrow to collect the keys (we are in Italy atm.)
The thing is i have lived in citys all my life, New York and London and i do love the life style. One of the main reasons that we are moving to one of them is as my fiancee can’t stand city life and also it is not a great laid back place to start a family. I have had to sell my London flat and also also rent out one of the rooms in my New York flat to a friend so that it is looked after when i am not there for work. I am giving so much to move out there and am now starting to worry that maybe i will miss the city life and it might be too late to move back (the place we have brought is alot of money and we are putting alot of money into it to make it our own…)
We did do a "test trial" in Kentucky and i did like it but it was only for a week not my whole life…
Any reasurances that i am moving to the right place? My fiancee just says i will "love it" and to "give it a go."
The only regrets in life should be the opportunities you did not take advantage of. This is a new start and a new life. You may hate it but you may absolutely love it. Give it a chance, what you are feeling now is probably just nerves and that’s quite normal for such a big change.
Give it 6 months and if you have not settled then think again but go with an open mind and make some new friends.
Enjoy, I wish you a happy life in Kentucky…you lucky girl!
If you want to have a family, a big city like new york is not the best place. I’m sorry but if you want to have a family you will have to give up a lot of things, giving up city life is just the start of it. Family takes sacrifice to make it work both you and your fiancee will have to give up a lot in order to have kids someday, but what you give up is nothing compared to what you gain. In my opinion, giving up city life is well worth it to gain a family.
It always feels a llittle scary and unsure when you’re about to make a big move. Do give it a try. Good luck! Wish I could say more.
Don’t do it man… Lot of DRY counties… meaning no alcohol!
I’m from Chicago and I now live in NYC, but I did graudate from University of Alabama… And man, don’t do it…
Hicks and stupid people everywhere… racism of all kinds… from both directions.. very solow talkers… very slow walkers.
Most of the people have not ever even left Kentucky
They are absorbed on sitting at home and watching tv, so they are big believers that what’s on tv is reality!
it is sooo boring
people get fat! I mean FAT!
Plus… it is fashionable to beat on your wife! and nobody will ever know, because the cop you reported it to, will slap you around too!
You want country: go to rural areas in New York.. they are awesome.
HERE IS WHAT IS REAL: Tell your boyfriend to GROW UP and move away from his parents. That is what life is. Instead of being stuck in the past, like he is, because he couldn’t make it in NY, he should move forward. Tell him to stop going backwards.
You want happiness? Find a place where neither you nor him know of! Move to Jersey or something!
Very selfish and controlling of your boyfriend… Give up NYC for Kentucky? You kidding me? Just the thought of it drops your IQ.
you sound as if you are being pressured into something that you don’t want to do and i think you should wait a week or so to think things through, so you wont change your mind.
you need to ask yourself whats more important in life, what do you want to do, you may really enjoy kentucky.
nothings never too late also, remember that because it fits with everything and is so true if you really want something.
i wish you all the best in life.
I would give it a go and also try to come back from where you grew up from time to time. Ask him if he would agree on that and you need to be in the city to check on your rental flat in New York. You also should be with your family some. I would hope that your new home in Kentucky is not too close to his parents.
Just sit down and talk about your concerns again and his. I feel sure you both will be very happy with all compromises. I wish you both much happiness in your life together. Remember one thing, most in-laws at first could be a problem in you marriage. Not all but some
trust me Kentuck is AWESOME!!! i know from experiance if ya no wat i mean.. lol but it is awsome! not crowed and loud but quite and a great place for a family!